Back To School


It appears to me that Tiffany is looking at going back to school. This makes me proud. I am very happy for her in this possible decision. She had talked about this in the past and it looks like she is finally doing it. It makes me sad that she felt that she couldn't do it while she was with me. She put up so many mental blocks because of our financial situation that she couldn't think outside the box. She kept using me, the money situation, and the business as excuses and blame that she wasn't willing to get past them; so much so, that it contributed to her needing to be hospitalized and medicated again for it. I'm glad that she is starting to move past that. It hurts that she couldn't allow herself to get past that while we were together. The road would have been easier if she had felt strong enough to grow unified but now she has chosen to grow apart and suffer. God uses suffering to inspire change. I believe that this will be for our good even if she never repents of her broken covenants.

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