Treacherously Departeth

This weekend I took the kids camping. The ward was going to have a camping trip but they canceled it. I decided to go camping anyway. I decided to camp out on the church property. If that didn't work, we would have camped out in our backyard. When I went to pick up the children, Tiffany was especially angsty. Most likely from a misunderstanding in our texting earlier that day. Nathan was balling on the floor - out of his element it turned out, from a fall off of the monkey bars earlier at school. He had a bump on his head. I checked him later and he was in good condition. I kept asking about his head the rest of the weekend and he did better and better each day. I asked them if their mom had spoiled the surprise of the weekend and it turned out she didn't. We still share calendars so I expected she would have. On the way home we stopped by the store to get s'mores and Nate guessed we were going camping. After getting everything loaded into the van and taking a detour, ...

On the first Wednesday of March, I was trying to figure out how to ask for the kids for the weekend. I didn't figure it out. On Thursday, Nate called me and we talked for a while. When we were done talking, Nate handed the phone back to Tiffany. I asked her if I could have the children for the weekend, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Later she texted me and said, "You may have the kids from Friday evening until Sunday after church." When I went to pick up the kids, Tiffany told me to move out of the house and that she was going to move back in with the kids. I could tell she wasn't in the mood to negotiate so I told her when she was willing to discuss a solution we could both agree on we could talk. When Tiffany came to pick up the kids at the church I told her that we needed to talk. I asked what the situation was with Nate and school. He had now missed ten of the previous eleven days of school because Tiffany wouldn't take him to school. Tiffany asked if I de...

Tiffany has requested that the church records of our children be moved with her records into her new ward congregation. I have denied this request already twice. I expect to continue to deny this request and hear are the reasons: I have been the spiritual leader in our house our whole marriage. I was the one encouraging us to read and discuss scriptures together while we were dating. After we were married, I continued to encourage us to read together. This started to slowly slip as I felt I was the only one who cared and didn't feel support from Tiffany. In recent years, it was pretty infrequent to study together. We used to go to the temple together very frequently before we moved to Georgia and that started to slip as well especially after we moved back to Texas. Specifically with the children, it was my initiative to start scripture study in our house with each child. I introduced Nate to the scriptures. I encourage him daily to read. I introduced Lily to the scriptures and...

It appears to me that Tiffany is looking at going back to school. This makes me proud. I am very happy for her in this possible decision. She had talked about this in the past and it looks like she is finally doing it. It makes me sad that she felt that she couldn't do it while she was with me. She put up so many mental blocks because of our financial situation that she couldn't think outside the box. She kept using me, the money situation, and the business as excuses and blame that she wasn't willing to get past them; so much so, that it contributed to her needing to be hospitalized and medicated again for it. I'm glad that she is starting to move past that. It hurts that she couldn't allow herself to get past that while we were together. The road would have been easier if she had felt strong enough to grow unified but now she has chosen to grow apart and suffer. God uses suffering to inspire change. I believe that this will be for our good even if she never repen...

This weekend I picked up the kids around 5pm. On the way home I asked what the children wanted for dinner. They all wanted something different. I told them I would decide what we would have once we got home. I wanted to teach them something, so I decided they could each have what they wanted if they help make it. Matthew wanted pizza, so I had him take the pizza out of the box and put it on the stove. I had Nathan help cut it out of the plastic and then I showed them how to preheat the oven and taught them the dangers of the hot oven. Lily wanted to have chips with cheese. I helped her clean a plate to put the chips on and then had both Nate and Lily grate cheese. Nate already knew how but Lily didn't, so I had her watch Nate first then taught her how to hold the cheese and what not to tough on the grater. Then I had her spread the cheese on the chips and once I put it in the microwave I helped her push the start button. Nate wanted an omelet so I had Nate crack an egg which he ...

On Thursday, after wondering how I should ask Tiffany for kids for the weekend, Nate called me and we talked for a while. When we were done talking, Nate handed the phone back to Tiffany. I asked her if I could have the children for the weekend, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Later she texted me and said, "You may have the kids from Friday evening until Sunday after church." I picked them up around 6:15pm on Friday. On the way home, Nate was telling me some of the things Tiffany was telling them about the situation. Lily wanted to go the the office to play and get checked but it was getting too late. Nate was mentioning all the games he wanted to play so I decided it would be a work and play day on Saturday. When we got home we read scriptures and stories together and sent the kids to bed. Before going to bed, Nate made a list of all the games he wanted to play. After he went to bed, I made a list of all the chores that needed to be done. In the morning before breakfast, ...

I am starting this blog as a journal; divorce journal if you will. I'm hoping that this will not end in divorce. I am Vince Methot and I love my wife Tiffany Methot. It was recommended to me that if a divorce is going to happen it is in my best interest to have the facts able to be presented. It is unfortunate that I cannot portray my wife in the best light possible because the facts do not show this. However, I do not wish anyone to suppose that I am perfect or better than her in every way. I am better than her is some ways and she is better than me in others. In both cases, we fall short of being great at anything. Some will disagree with this statement and I hope it is not true but I don't want to deny reality. It happened again on Sunday March 3rd, 2019. I woke up and the house was silent. Tiffany left in the middle of the night with the kids and, this time, with the dog. Last time the triggering event was the credit card decline. But she let me know that that was comin...